A man in his 50's is sitting in front of me. Very successful in his business.
Worked hard to realize his dream. Which he had since a young age.
And he did. During the session I can see that he also took the belief system: he needs to do everything by himself. Because he felt at that moment his parents could not take care of him.The way he needed.
A pattern of hard work and over-responsibility is born. Now many years later, this shows in his well-being. Time to take a deeper look at this pattern.
He has tried to go to the opposite behavior: doing nothing. But it did not work. And here it gets interesting.
Since what I often notice is that as human beings we have a tendency to polarize. But we do not need to neglect any part of ourselves.
Life invites us to learn who we are and how we function the best as a whole. All our aspects can work together as a team.
Where sometimes when one of the team members gets tired, The others take his tasks over. But only out of love not out of exclusion. Allowing him to rest, so he can get back on the team a.s.a.p.
In his case I advised him to go surfing (which he loves) to become zen: an active meditation.